Texas parents go through a lot during divorce. You have the same concerns childless couples do. You must also focus on assets, spousal support and more. But you must also worry about legalities surrounding your kids. This can include custody, visitation rights and schedules and child support payments.
On top of that, you must be there to provide emotional support for your child. After all, this decision is going to impact them for the rest of their life, too.
Know what information to give
Psychology Today discusses how to sit your kids down and talk about divorce. A lot of it boils down to the way you approach the topic and what information you provide. You must strike a delicate balance between not providing enough information and oversharing. So first, get on the same page with your co-parent. Decide what information your child needs to know and what you will keep to yourself. For example, they do not need to know the exact reason you decided to split up. But they should know who may move out of the house. You can also tell them what changes may occur and what may stay the same.
Reassure your child
In terms of tone, ensure that your child understands they are not to blame. This is the most important part. Reassure them that your love for them does not change. Let them know that both you and your co-parent will continue to love and support them even if you live apart. Children are quick to self-blame and direct guilt inward. You want to stop this from happening. Also, do not approach this conversation if you are in the middle of an argument with your co-parent. Your child will pick up on this and it may color your words to them.